In the last 20 years I have I have watched clients, mostly women block their own body from being the best it can be because of their attitude toward other woman who are smaller than them.

Here are a few examples of comments that have been said to me, the fitness professional they come to for help to get fit. 

"I'm not looking to be a skinny minnie, I just want to....."
"I'm not trying to look like anorexic model, I just want to....."
"You probably never had a weight problem."
"I will never be a size 2......."
"I don't want to be obsessed with working or trying to run a marathon, I just want to lose some fat on my belly"
"I bet you eat like a bird" 

It is a real thing with the extreme statements and limits put on themselves by themselves stopping them from being healthy. It is such an common "social norm" for women to be this way, when it is not positive or healthy. 

I have heard woman call a complete stranger a skinny bitch to her friends about a woman they see across the room.  

I had a client tell me once, as I am helping them..  "I can't wait until you get pregnant one day so you can be fat.  I would love to see you fat".

One girl brought her sister to work out with her one day and after her sister left she said this to me. "You are lucky my sister likes you. She usually does not like people like you"  I said "like what?"  She said "She usually does not like thin pretty people, but you are so nice she had to like you."

One women told me this.  "You look like someone who has never been through anything bad in your life"

 I write about this because these limiting mindsets will stop woman and young girls from getting to the body they really wish they had. The truth is they usually  wish they had the body of the person they are insulting.

I worked with a 11 year old girl one time.  She was probably 30 pounds over weight. She would talk about the other girls in her P.E. class as skinny girls and make comments like, "those skinny girls...." . I said to her one day.  "Do you really want to be smaller like those girls" She said. "yes". She had tears in hers eyes.  I continued as gently and caring as I could to try to explain to her that that thinking is making it harder on her to get to her goal.  I wanted so badly for her to understand this now, at this young age. 

This is a perfect example of how many woman who are over weight continue to put down and make snide remarks to those who are smaller and/or more healthier then they are.

First of all calling others names for being thin is just as judgmental and hurtful as it is for calling others fat and judging someone for being over weight.  It is the same thing.  It is treating someone and judging someone according to their looks. The same thing over weight people do not want done to them.  I truly know there are people who put down overweight people, it is also a real thing.  In my years in the industry I have heard much less of that and huge amounts of the other I am writing about.

This mindset in adult woman are being passed down to their daughters who think it is normal way of life to be this way.  It is actually helping to create a very unhealthy body image and life style for their daughters to carry their whole life.

I felt very bad for the 11 year old girl. I wanted for her so badly to stop that behavior so she did not go through her whole life limiting herself. This sort of thinking leads girls to be woman in their 40s trying to still lose the same 30 pounds because it became a part of their identity to always want to loose the extra pounds.

I have met woman in their 60s who spent their whole life was spent this way and looking at others making digs on them for being thin and living their whole life with a mindset they created to have the life style to always have to lose weight and never making a healthy life style to take true good care of their body.

This is for any goal in life. What others have or don't have...... have nothing to do with what you can do.
Making statements are like affirmations.  What you repeat out loud or in your head is like an affirmation.  It can be negative or positive.
You can't bring into  your life something you really want if your mind is hating it in others.

  If you want to lose 20 pounds, it does not matter if you are looking at 5 people who have no weight to lose.   Remember you don't know everyone's story. Maybe the woman at your child's school or office you work at that is thin never gained weight or maybe she did and lost it.  None of this has anything to do with your story.

 Your story of you body and you healthy life style you have or don't have is the choices you have made for yourself.  Choices can be changed in a minute. 

 You are the only one in the whole world who has to be with your body your whole life.
 So, make it the best it can be.

If someone puts you down for being bigger, then shame on them.

 No one wants to be put down for their appearance no matter what they look like.

 I wish for woman of all ages to be the best they can be.
I wish for all woman to not have a lifestyle of "I have to lose weight" all the time.

If you noticed you have this limiting mindset and did not understand that it is actually working against you, then change it.  Just do it.
Be happy for those you see who have good things.
Be good to you.
Take care of you.
Love you.
Be kind to you.
Take are of yourself like you would a child.